Warren Buffet said life is like a snowball. All you need is some wet snow and a really long hill. You have to have wet snow. Have you ever tried to make a snowball out of powdery snow? You just can' make it stick together. When you throw it, it scatters like a herd of cats at a dog show. Wetness is what makes snowflakes stick together.
Papa God created us to stick together. We were created for community, a group of people who have something in common, interacting and bonding together. Papa put that drive to commune in our spiritual DNA. God is love, but you can't love alone; hence, God exists in three persons. His need for love and relationship is met within Himself. He could do without us, but He longs for us to understand and experience a relationship lived in community focused on the common needs of one another.
To fully enjoy community, you need a really long hill. You make a big snowball by starting with a handful of wet snow and setting it loose down a hill. As it rolls, it picks up more snow.
Relationships are the same way. You find a few "wet" people with whom you have something in common, and you just get together. You find a hill, or journey, if you will. Gravity provides the momentum for the snowball, and God's spirit provides the power to bond you with each other as you journey through life together.
It takes time to bond, because bonding takes trust. In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve were naked and not ashamed. Sin and a fallen world have shamed us as well, and so we hide our true identity behind masks to cover our flaws and scars. But we all have them. And we all need to share our lives and journeys with some other "wet" people so we can be holy (wholly) as He is holy. It takes time, but it is worth it. Just ask the Skin Horse from "The Velveteen Rabbit," by Margery Williams.
The Skin Horse lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath, and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out. He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away. He knew they were only toys and would never turn into anything else. But nursery magic is strange and wonderful, and only those play-things that are wise and experienced like Skin Horse understand.
"What is real?" asked Rabbit one day. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become real."
"Does it hurt?" asked Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said Skin Horse. "When you are real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," Rabbit asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It takes a long time," Skin Horse said. "That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally by the time you are real, most of your hair has been rubbed off, your eyes drop out, and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter, because once you are real, you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
Once you understand how beautiful you are to Papa, it doesn't matter if people think you are ugly. As a matter of fact, some of the most beautiful people I know have quirky joints and most of their hair has been rubbed off.
Go find some wet snow, and keep rolling.
Kenny Ashley is pastor of discipleship and teaching for River Hills Community Church. He can be reached at email@example.com.